Can you see the attempted stagnation and self fulfilling prophecy in the phrasing of your very question??
Are you some all-knowing being?? Some sage or Oracle who see’s all?
Consider the following:
- You have made the effort to post a question on Quora.
- Your question has even left open the possibility for hope.
- And you’ve demonstrated some trust for the wisdom of others.
Can you KNOW with certitude, that you would have been able to do those proactive things, had you not had those 20 years of therapy??
You seem a smart person … and your intellectual honesty will force you to acknowledge that you cannot know who you would be today, without the process and experiences you’ve had these past 20 years.
Is it really useful, fair or reasonable to claim ZERO PROGRESS??
You KNOW it’s not … and so you can reasonably conclude that such baseless framing of reality indicates that SOMETHING else is going on … something unconscious!!!
And what we know about the brain, is that a specific process inside is TERRIFIED of change … even when that change would be positive and uplifting …
That’s all that’s happening here … that terrified part of you is discounting and denying your progress!!
Getting to your question, the answer is YES!!
Your nervous system is very plastic, and there are massively skilled healers available to guide your process … and you are already on your way!!
And you will go faster once you stop denying it!!