I don’t know … perhaps you could get trained as a therapist so you have the experience and professional credentials to be certain of exactly what is best for you.
It’s one thing to decide she’s not the one for you, and pick a different therapist.
It’s quite another to deconstruct her technique and try to “peer” with her or other therapists, as if you know how the limbic system works. If you are qualified to be judging and critiquing her training, then you have no business being her client. She should be yours.
And what does “validate” mean in this context? To tell you that she empathizes with your feelings? To tell you that your interpretation alone is evidence that these things happened exactly as you’ve perceived them?
Once you finish with your degree, you will have learned at least two key things about the human brain:
- Subjectivity — it means that your past experiences and expectations influence what you perceive to be true in the present
- Interpretive framework — part of your unconscious mind is dedicated to preventing your identity and worldview from changing very much; you keep seeing a distorted reality to preserve this homeostasis … WE ALL DO
This question implies you feel qualified to have this debate … so please, read this post and then let’s hash it out. I won’t delete or censor anything you write.
https://www.quora.com/search?q=homeostasis%20preservation&author=84795924