No … most people have a distorted view of therapy & fail to ask the most basic question that would clear up their confusion.
This happens for quite a few reasons:
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Personal change is almost imperceptibly SLOW in the beginning
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Many therapists are not very skilled & this resulting lack of progress damages the reputation of therapy, among society at large
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Certain models/methods of therapy are much more effective than others. I’m a HUGE FAN of both Hakomi and Somatic Experiencing … but these models are less widely known or practiced
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The human unconscious mind contains a VERY STRONG program devoted to “homeostasis preservation”. This means, “resistance to ANY change that might be destabilizing”. If the therapist is SEMI-SKILLED and not pacing the client accordingly, many clients will quit with the excuse that “it wasn’t working”, when in reality, they were starting to change and his program became activated to preserve stability of identity & worldview.
For the reasons mentioned above, people PREFER to focus on the generic question of “whether therapy works”, rather than the more certain & clearly answerable question of:
What is the PRIMARY tool that every human uses to set priorities, make decisions and organize their life??
Answer: Your MIND
And if you don’t study the way it works, you are at the mercy of the parts you do not see or acknowledge. From a logical perspective this is so obviously silly … so you can recognize your rejection of this insight as THE FIRST TELL, that something else is in charge of you!!
Dewey Gaedcke’s answer to What are the benefits of seeking therapy?