It’s a strange question … in fact, if your life were PERFECT, I suspect you would not be expressing this curiosity. And usually, for those of us with imperfect lives, we’d like some things to get better … we want some OUTWARD change.
And most of us understand that for something to be different, WE’LL have to BEHAVE differently.
Now let me be fair to you … ALL of us possess a deep and very strong program in the unconscious called “[homeostasis preservation](https://www.quora.com/search?q=homeostasis%2520preservation&author=84795924 “www.quora.com”)” (it means don’t allow much change). And so at SOME LEVEL, none of us want to change our behavior or way of thinking … but that’s an old evolutionary system, and not a very rational one, given the context of our modern world.
So we all wrestle with an existential tug, between “not wanting to change” and “wanting our lives to get better” … and each of us has to decide which force we will allow to dictate our choices and thus our future.
What I can say is that we all do possess an unconscious mind, and if you don’t connect to it deeply, it’s going to fly your plane (auto-pilot metaphor) some place you did not intend.
So the reason for introspection and self-study (aka therapy), is to gain more influence to influence our lives in the direction of our dreams and desires.
Down below you will see a chat exchange with one of my clients …
Dewey Gaedcke’s answer to What are the benefits of seeking therapy?