Yes — everyone feels this way … you are not alone
And there are two primary reasons for this:
- homeostasis preservation … a “program” in your unconscious, installed there by evolution, tries to keep things stable and familiar … it’s a resistance to change; therapy (to actually help), MUST change your habitual thoughts, and ways of viewing self and world. This is a big threat to that “homeostasis preservation” program and so it creates reasons (rationalizations) for why you should just quit and go back to the old and familiar patterns
- humans are organic creatures … we change from a slow reorganizing of (reprioritization in) the nervous system; not from big, conscious, decisive changes stemming from free-will; you will have periods in which any destabilizing change takes a pause and allows reorganizaition and integration to happen
- perhaps a 3rd reason is that many therapists are unskilled and under-qualified; this is sad because it breeds hopelessness and resignation in their clients … it convinces them that change and relief is not available, and they often collapse and give up
other posts on homeostasis preservation