“Therapy” is a CATCH-ALL term for at least 30 different methods and techniques … many of which are SOLIDLY KNOWN to be efficacious with specific issues
So saying “therapy doesn’t work” is kind of like saying that “sports are not dangerous” … it demonstrates a vast misunderstanding of the topic.
It’s also similar to saying “lifting weights does not make my muscles more dense” …
And that’s just flat wrong … we know how muscles work, and we KNOW HOW NEW NEURO-PATHWAYS are formed in the human brain … the scientific understanding of these processes is quite advanced and not subject to being uprooted by such unfounded claims.
What MAY be true is:
- you found an incompetent therapist
- you didn’t stay at it long enough
- the changes so far are small enough to be BENEATH your conscious awareness (you’ve not sensed the change that has started)
- your homeostasis preservation systems (aka unconscious resistance) are inhibiting your range and slowing detectible change
- you’ve selected a method/model that is not a good fit for your constellation of specific issues
Any of those can be true … but “therapy doesn’t work” is not one of them …
Your framing of reality is a reflection of your subjective and biased experience
Such a confident & certain negative prediction from you, coupled with the vast experience of experts over many decades, is a really strong “tell” that your unconscious resistance is a big part of your hopelessness generating experience
Dewey Gaedcke’s answer to What are the benefits of seeking therapy?
Dewey Gaedcke’s answer to Why will no one admit that therapy doesn’t work for some people?