Our brains are all running an automatic “program” called “homeostasis preservation”. This means that we have deep unconscious fears for things changing too suddenly or too radically.
It’s much more psychologically “safe” to judge & blame someone you don’t know, versus facing all the implications that go-with judging & rejecting your “best friend” and “partner”.
Also, judging other people (moral outrage) tends to (temporarily) boost moral and self-esteem … that’s why virtue signaling is so popular … and it’s actually (partially) how Bill Cosby was able to keep himself stable during his crimes.
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