Yes … you acknowledge that you BOTH are projecting 90% of the time during conflict
It’s not an “narcissistic trait”, but a totally normal feature based on how the mind (all minds) operate to preserve homeostasis …
in short, your mind (especially during stress), will not allow itself to see/recognize judge-able or blamable qualities in itself … the blame, judgement and accusations you practice TOWARDS OTHERS, during a fight, ARE THEMSELVES YOUR PROJECTIONS
Imagining that only one of you is doing it, is JUST ANOTHER PROJECTION
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